Episode 67: Life Leaves Clues-Why Goals Succeed
What You’ll Learn
Success in Setting Goals (01:15)
Success in Executing Goals (14:05)
Recap (36:50)
Wins (37:40)
Invitation (54:44)
All last week we told you, YOU GET TO HAVE GOALS!
Today we’re going to introduce you to some mommas who had goals and crushed them!
First, we’ll talk about why goals succeed! Jon Acuff always says, “Success leaves clues.” So, today we’ll talk about the two areas where you’ll succeed with goals, first in the setting of the goals, and then in the execution of the goals.
Success in Setting Goals (01:15)
When we’re setting the goals, there are things we can do that will set us up for success…
Actually setting the goals (writing them down)
Inviting your spouse in
Set goals for things you can actually control
Set goals that take into consideration SMALL growth
Set goals that consider our capacity
We all know why actually setting the goals will set you up for success, but sometimes we just need to hear it to be spurred to action. It’s so good to let go of fictitious deadlines, and just keep moving forward.
Why should you invite your spouse in? First, they’re your person. More than likely, any goals you set will affect them. AND, many times, they have GREAT ideas! Inviting your spouse in and taking their advice can help set you up for success! Your spouse knows you SO well (sometimes maybe better than you know yourself).
You will be so much more likely to succeed when you set goals for things that you can actually control. We need to look at creating goals that are within our power to impact change in—don’t set yourself up for disappointment in this way (right out the gate). Focus on what you can actually control.
Moms are uniquely qualified to set small goals and break them down into manageable chunks…we do it for our kids ALL the time! Give yourself some quick wins and make life more manageable.
Increase your chances for success by setting goals that align with your capacity and your season. Be honest about where you are when you set your goals, start small and simple and build from there. Instead of allowing yourself to get overwhelmed, make a “later list.”
Success in Executing Goals (14:05)
Executing the goals
Find support, community, and encouragement
Persistence
Growth mindset
Setting realistic expectations
Intentional spending/saving
Support is a BIG part of success in executing goals. Support from everywhere and anywhere. As you set your goals, think around them—and consider who and how you can ask for help. Going a bit further with this idea, how can you support your friends with their biggest goals. Let your people become a part of your origin story—let them share in your success! Another way to seek support is to trade with a friend or neighbor. Excitement begets excitement and spreads like wildfire!
Persistence is key because you WILL fail again and again, but the only way you can truly fail is if you give up. Jon Acuff talk about how achieving any goal will take longer than you think. Jasmine Star talks about how much money starting a business (or chasing a goal will take)…more than you think! This isn’t meant to be discouraging…setting out with unrealistic expectations WILL discourage you. Thinking through the roadblocks that could come up can prepare you for the messy middle…the tough times…and it will give you an answer for life when it happens. Knowing how your year flows will do a TON for staying persistent in your goals.
Success is much more likely if you approach anything with the idea that, “I can learn how to do this!” As you start going through this process, you’ll eventually reach the extent of your knowledge. Having a learning mindset will keep you going past your current limits. A willingness to fail, to learn, and to try will keep you going.
Setting realistic expectations will keep discouragement at bay. When you have those pie-in-the-sky goals that are too big or too wild, it’s too much and you may be tempted to give up. Instead, figure out what small actions will move the needle forward, will bring you towards success. Each time you complete a small action, as James Clear says, you’re casting a vote for who you want to be. The other side of setting realistic expectations is the willingness to pivot. Your ability to handle the changes as they come could actually be the goal. Take an assessment of your goals, consider your ‘why’ and then go through your action steps to make sure they fit in your life. Our ability to stay consistent and keep showing up doesn’t always depend on what we can bring to the table, so it’s important to find the balance between going after something big AND recognizing your capacity and your season, and setting realistic steps you can achieve that are within your power to go after so you can keep up with that persistence.
Be intentional about making room in your budget for your goals. First of all, if you have a goal, you you are worthy of space in the budget (within reason). Your goals will impact your spouse, your children, and the world. Supported, nurtured, and fulfilled moms are a gift to everyone around them. Moms have so much more power than we realize, we can support one another and we have the power to change generations. At the same time, you DO deserve space in the budget, but not to the detriment of your family’s financial situation. Brittany and I are uniquely blessed with very supportive spouses, and we understand that this isn’t everyone’s situation. Especially when you’re using family funds, you need to involve your spouse in the money you’re spending to reach your goals. Dave Ramsey talks about the $100 rule, maybe it’s $10 for you…maybe it’s $1,000. I’m not sure what your situation is, but come to an agreement with your spouse on what level of spending is reasonable for you to do on your own. Don’t forget that there are other ways to make your goals happen even if it doesn’t fit in the budget. There may be a place where you can cut back. Or maybe you could watch kiddos, take up a babysitting job, run a mom’s day out, use your skills to make money online, teach classes, or maybe you and your spouse could come together to think about ways either of you could make a little extra money.
Recap (36:50)
Reasons Goals succeed in the setting of the goals…
When you actually set the goals
Inviting your spouse in
Setting goals for things you can actually control
Setting goals that take into consideration SMALL growth
Setting goals that align with your capacity or season
Reasons goals succeed in the execution of the goals…
When you get support from anyone and everyone around you
Having persistence
Having a growth mindset
Setting realistic expectations
Intentional spending/saving
Wins (37:40)
We are so deeply honored to share some wins from the mommas in our community. Listen along and celebrate them along with us! Finally, if you have a win you’d like to share with us, send us an audio file to brittany@thedeliberateday.org
Invitation (54:44)
Momma you get to have goals, if you don't have the Deliberate Start goal planning guide yet, we want to give you a small taste of what's in there by sharing the personal reflection and personal beginning pages for free.
You can get it:
On Instagram (Thedeliberateday) -- DM us with the words: Sneak Peek
Or by emailing us at Brittany@thedeliberateday.org
Happy goal planning momma!
